A must in creating a new life is creating new habits.

Our life revolves around the habits we formed. Good or bad.

The good news is we have the power to change the bad habits into good ones, and it’s not as difficult as you think it is.

We don’t have to stay stuck in the same-old-same-old…

We have the power to create a new life, and creating new habits is part of the work.

A habit is what it is because we’ve done a particular thing over and over again, so remember, all these new behaviors are going to have to be deliberately done and over and over again.

Everything we want to change in our lives has to be done deliberately until it becomes habitual.

One thing that OGP (Organizationally Gifted People) do is they guard their time and commitments. One thing that us OCP (Organizationally Challenged People) do is we don’t… LOL We don’t think before we say yes to requests.

This makes us overbooked, double-booked and living a frantic existence with no time to do the things that are necessary to live the lives we dream of.

This one thing is the cause of a lot of our problems, so this is our next lesson.

Say No!

I am sharing a video here that I did for members of my course on living an organized life please watch it, and begin employing it!

If we want to become organized, we need to say NO when it conflicts with what we need to do and what we’ve planned.

Saying no is something that Organizationally Gifted people never have a problem with. They immediately say they need to check their planner to see if they can say yes to anything impending, or just out and out say NO if they realize a specific date is scheduled.

We don’t have a problem saying no when we need to do things like go to work, or to an appointment, but if we are doing “nothing” if there is nothing planned… we feel like we should say yes to the request.

There is nothing further than the truth.

It isn’t selfish to take time for yourself; it isn’t wrong to turn down a request because we have things to do at home, like yard work, dejunking or relaxing!

In this day and age of 9-5, with dual incomes and the outside activities of children that seems to run the household… there is only one way to take care of home and that is to make it a priority.

Organizationally Gifted people don’t have a problem with this at all, and in this video, I help you see how you don’t have to either, along with the motivation to say no with no sense of guilt or condemnation.

Now, remember! You signed up for this because you want a change. This does not happen by accident, it does not happen without effort or in concept, it happens because you DO what is necessary to create that change.

Again I am reminding you, that all new things we practice happen with pitfalls, sour notes, and misses… DO NOT see a mistake as anything other than that.

It was a miss… You’ve been doing things one way for a long time, just keep going. If you say YES when you should have said NO, just use it as a nudge… Don’t say to yourself. “OH LOOK! I KNEW THIS WOULDN’T WORK FOR ME!”

Say this to yourself instead… “AH! LOOK WHAT I JUST DID! It’s normal to not do everything 100% at first. GOOD FOR ME THAT I AM ON THE ROAD TO CHANGE!”

Remember, we hit roadblocks and bumps because we are on the road. Hitting them is a sign of success, we can’t succeed at something we are not actively working on, so see imperfection as a sign that you are going to win!

Let me know how you did!

Love,
Kathy

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Therese Duthoy - Reply

Hi Kathy,
Thank you for the motivational mails that I’ve gotten for the last couple of days . They are helpful. I am setting my timer and doing 30 minutes at a time of a task (just now, getting rid of papers). And I have set a time to go to bed which is helpful because I am up earlier. At night I try not to leave the dishes unwashed. There was a night over the holidays that I left a dish and cup, but I am really aware of how much of a difference it makes to see all of them washed in the morning and a clear counter/sink space when I go into the kitchen.

It is a slow process for me, but I am committed and thankful for your program and ideas and videos and mails.
Hope you had a very happy new year and that 2019 will be healthy and prosperous and peaceful.
Best wishes,
Therese

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    YAY YOU Therese! It is awesome, isn’t it? To create new standards that we live up to, and it creates the life we want to live. We do have control over our lives and it is the simple things, that seem not to be all that important that makes all the difference. Thanks for the comment and letting me know xxoo

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    Thanks Therese for the comment! I love your progress!!

Gina - Reply

Hi. I enjoyed the video. And didn’t I make those mistakes being on the phone too much when my children were small. Thankfully, they turned out well Thanks to Jehovah and other good things they are all kind, loving, hardworking, responsible men. I think if any young women can hear your video information it would help many to prioritize. Loneliness and frustration over circumstances seemingly out of my control caused me to seek adult consultation and friendship. Your right, those friends are not around anymore and now my kids are grown. What choices and outcomes. Thankyou.

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    Thank you for your comment Gina, it truly will encourage other moms. I appreciate you so much.

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    Thanks for this comment, Gina. One good thing about us OCP we go for fun first which makes for less regrets where people and relationships are concerned 🙂 So, while maybe we didn’t have a picked up livingroom, we did have happy children who played games with their mom a lot 🙂

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