Starting Your Day

We are going to talk about getting up a little earlier than you do now.

I know we like our sleep, but this new habit is absolutely necessary. I’m asking you to trust me that this is essential in reaching your goal to live an organized life.

Get up 1/2 hour before you actually HAVE TO.. If you wake up at 7:00 in the morning and you leave the house at 8, then you wake up at 6:30 now.

If you work from home and your feet hit the floor at 8:00 and you start working at 8:30, you must get up at 7:30 now.

If you are a stay at home parent you need to wake up a half hour before the mainstream of the family.

Another habit to incorporate with this one is to shower, groom and dress before anything (or you can just get yourself dressed and ready for the day, as in face washed, clothes on, hair done. If you were invited to lunch, you could grab your keys and go)

EVEN IF YOU ARE NOT LEAVING THE HOUSE.

O.G.Ps (Organizationally Gifted People) wouldn’t even think of not getting themselves together for the day, even if they are staying at home.

Weekends, sleep till you want too, BUT, SHOWER, GROOM, AND DRESS, BEFORE ANYTHING, even on weekends.

Begin to employ these two new habits and you will NOT miss the extra 30 minutes of sleep. I promise you. You will thank me for asking you to try this and You’ll be amazed by how things change in your world almost immediately.

Much Love to you!
Kathy
The Tidy Tutor
PS
Since I wrote this the internet and smartphones have been a real source of distraction. You need to employ “Do what you gotta before you do what you wanna!” big time where this is concerned. Phones off, stay focused, do all you need to do before you allow the phone to suck your life into oblivion and keep you from reaching your goals!

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Gina - Reply

Hi Kathy,
Your a great communicator and I appreciate this lesson. Being born disorganized and later adopted by an organized inflexible family you can imagine how that went. So, we are labeled and we continue labeling ourselves. So, I feel I am a domestic failure. Yet, there is a secret thought always going on that I like it clean and organized. The good feelings that come with having it together I desire and experience on a small scale as I struggle to keep my small domestic routine. Now my 101 year old mother in law moved in and all healthcare workers for her and the phone calls and upset to my schedule. Iscrazy. these new pathways and thought patterns are essential to our growth and development in gaining that new personality. So glad you can help us. I felt lost and I think you are going to help me meet this challenge. Thankyou Kathy

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    I am so happy you are in my world! I will be able to help you, for sure. I understand your feelings completely.

    Your words: “Yet, there is a secret thought always going on that I like it clean and organized.”

    I get it. We feel like we don’t have the right to feel those things. But we really ARE organized, we just lack the knowledge on how to employ all that needs to be plugged in to live the life we know we can!

    I also understand the ‘lost’ feeling too. Like being on a raft in the middle of the ocean. If only we had oars! I’m handing you the oars and before you know it, you’ll be on a motorboat! ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for the comment.

Genifer - Reply

Iโ€™ve been a longtime follower and fan of yours, Kathy! I know you get my brain. I am at an all time low. Going through a divorce that still isnโ€™t finalized and I recently lost my mom. I have 3 ADHD kids and the nut doesnโ€™t fall from the tree. I am going to trust you and officially commit to shower, dress, and groom each morning before my kids go back to school next week. Thank you, Kathy! I am ready for some changes.

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    My goodness you are going through so much right now. Divorce is devastating, prayers your way darling girl… And your mom… I’m so sorry ๐Ÿ™

    Having Being ADHD is a gift. It isn’t viewed that way but it truly is. We just have to learn how we tick. We learn differently than the OGP (Organizationally Gifted People) in the world and when they are all we’ve been taught by it is no wonder we scratch our heads and wonder why we can’t get what they are teaching.

    You will be able to help them be the best they can be as you learn! Can’t wait for us to get to know each other!

Teresa Townsell - Reply

I’m in!

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    WOO HOO! Sorry for the late reply! I just saw the comment!!

Lilly from South Jersey/Toast Masters - Reply

So I went straight to the shower and got moisturized and dressed- Different- Low and behold I was ready and gave quality time to Frankie and took him on a much needed walk instead of just letting him out on the lawn and watching him. I was so happy and had no guilty self talk about not getting ready on time.

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    I love! Love! Love it! It is really much simpler than we believe. Some strategic things to do, keep following wait till you see how much will change! Have you joined the fb group? https://www.facebook.com/groups/2019wonderfulhappyyou/

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    Lilly, I could have sworn I responded to this. Maybe you posted this on FB too?

    Anyway, I LOVE that your putting things into practice and are seeing how much a difference doing simple things that we would never think would do anything really does so much!

    Keep posting!

Sue Tipler - Reply

Hello from snowy mid-Michigan! I like the idea of getting up early, showering/dressing/etc but I’m wondering how to do this with 2 “issues”: a husband who’s a light sleeper and not showering until after I’ve been to the gym. I touched on this on the Facebook page but I’m actually asking the question now. How do I deal with a husband who wakes up if I even breathe funny much less get out of bed? When I’ve tried this before he’d “mention” that once I get up he tosses & turns for that last 1/2 hour.
What I’ve been doing is, when his alarm sounds, he usually stays in bed for another 5-10 minutes, at which time I get up, get dressed for the gym and get the morning going for him & the kids. I drop off my son at school then go to the gym. Some days I’m able to come right home to shower, other days I have to just towel off and head to my cleaning jobs. Sometimes I shower as soon as I get home but most of the time I either shower at night or not until the next day.
Help!

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    Not showering till after the gym question: That’s fine. But then dress for the gym like you need to stop at the store first and meet someone for breakfast, that’s what I do. It’s about giving your job/life dignity.

    On the days you know you won’t be going to the gym, if you can’t get up till your husband’s alarm goes off, Shower before bed and then when you get up, get yourself ready without showering saving you time since you can’t get up earlier as you’d like to. Then just do your hair and wash up and get dressed, all fresh.

    Now, you asked, “How do I deal with a husband who wakes up if I even breathe funny much less get out of bed?” Before I answer that… WHat time does his alarm go off?

    Now about this: “Some days Iโ€™m able to come right home to shower, other days I have to just towel off and head to my cleaning jobs.” I have a video on this. Pack your clothes and hairdryer and toiletries and bring them out with you to the gym and shower there after your workout. It’s great. You leave all ready to face the day. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0uAWmEkqu5Q

    About this: “Sometimes I shower as soon as I get home, but most of the time I either shower at night or not until the next day.” If you shower as soon as you get home, and that works for you, then that works. BUT I wouldn’t wait till tomorrow after you worked out and put in a day working. We need to pay attention to self-care and also, be the best for ourselves and our family. We get ourselves together for strangers and people we don’t love outside the house and it’s backward. It is those that we love that we should be our best for ๐Ÿ™‚

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    I know I responded to this, but somehow I don’t see it. I asked what time he gets up. And then in another post, I responded once you told me what time he gets up ๐Ÿ™‚ ALl good, just didn’t want this to fall through the cracks.

Sue Tipler - Reply

Thanks for the tips, I just now read them since I’m still catching up from being gone last week.

I usually dress in nice gym clothes, I wouldn’t be embarrassed to go to the store or meet a friend for coffee beforehand so I’m set there.

I go to the gym usually Monday-Thursday, and on the Fridays my husband goes in to work. If he works from home we usually sleep in and I go when he’s in his meetings at the kitchen table. Cleaning jobs are on Tuesdays & Wednesdays, and every other Friday. Thursdays I do bring toiletries etc with me because I go to Bible Study right after the gym. I suppose I could just always bring them along but since I’m alone when I’m at my cleaning jobs I usually don’t bother freshening up.

As for when his alarm goes off, it’s at 6am so not unreasonable. But he’s a night owl and stays up late so he shorts himself on sleep; he does it to himself!

On my non-cleaning days I’ll shower as soon as I get home from the gym, on cleaning days I’ll shower in the evening like you suggested. Self-care is definitely important!

Thanks Kathy, you’re a gem!

Sue

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    You are more disciplined than you give yourself credit for Sue. And I think it’s fine to go to a cleaning job right after the gym, just be sure and get yourself together when you get home. Think of your life as important and a dream job to live it. Wouldn’t you get yourself together for a dream job?

    Your right 6am is not unreasonable. If you want to get up earlier than 6am but know that it’s not an option to make noise, use the 30 minutes to do what you may do later, like prayer, or meditation. It is quiet and crazy productive ๐Ÿ™‚ Even though the productivity is not visible to the eye. Otherwise, sleep till 6, and enjoy the sleeping in when you do that together. It may be because he needs to sleep in those days so you do too, even if you normally wouldn’t but it is something you will miss if you didn’t have it anymore.

    You could always go to bed in gym clothes (they are like pj’s) have your sneakers by the door and get out early while he sleeps getting a jump start on your day if you are looking to do that.

    The main reason for waking up 30 minutes before you have to is to have time for you and not to spill out of the house like a crazy person. Prepare for tomorrow and your golden.

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