Throw it Out Thursday – Throwing out Expectations

This is a Throwback Thursday from a “Throw it Out Thursday” that I did back in September of 2012.

In the video… Katie, Emily, my grandson Daniel and I were going to the mall. Katie started telling me about something, and I realized that it was a great topic for “Throw it Out Thursday.”

She talked about how letting go of the expectations she had of other people gave her so much freedom. And that she decided to just throw those expectations out and then replace them with other expectations.

When we expect people to fulfill things for us, we set ourselves up for disappointment and it really is unfair in the long run.

She replaced those expectations with Words of promise from her brand of faith, which came from The Bible.

She talked about how she realized that it was unfair to expect to get her needs met from people, and when she thought about it… she expected even less from herself than she did others.

She did a specific thing.

She wrote down on a piece of paper 25 things that she expected from each person, and then replaced each one with what she could expect from God and herself.

She talked about how she felt as if she was more productive in life. And while she didn’t want to admit it, depression began to raise its ugly head, which sent her to bed, watching reruns of The Office with a pint of ice cream.

I talk about this very subject in my book. I write about forgiveness and that the word forgive does not mean that what someone did to you was OK, but that you are willing to let go of that injustice or wrong done to you.

Because holding onto it does you no service. It actually hurts you!

I have a paragraph in my book “Finally Organized” and I promised in the video that I would send it to you and here it is. It is what you can say when you are ready to let go of past hurts.

“I know that what was done to me and the things that were said to me were not right, even very wrong, but still, I can make a conscious decision to take my life back and forgive (let go of) what was done. That person or those people cannot pay the price
to restore what was taken from me. I will stop expecting payment.

I will let go of those actions against me and leave them on the curb.

If a thought comes up that makes me feel bad, I will meditate, seek help, talk to someone, read something inspirational, but I will not continue down the road of self-pity. I acknowledge the fact that I was hurt, I validate my feelings by the realization that those things did happen to me, but I refuse to lose another minute of my life, going back to a time that cannot serve me. I am thankful that I am
Free.

Help me God to continue on to a new road, one that I choose to take and not one that was chosen for me.”

Throw away all things that don’t serve you and you will see that somehow it becomes easier to get rid of those tangible things that are cluttering our lives.

Leave a comment, let me know what you think.

Much Love to You!
Kathy
The Tidy Tutor

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Qweeny - Reply

Very NICE Idea ! Thanks ! Leave those Ugly feelings behind. It may not get my actual structural house in order, but will get my “physical” house, (my body & mentality) in a better state, to Let it Go ! Again, Thank-You!

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    I’m so glad that you liked it! Thanks so much for posting a comment and letting me know you liked the video and it helped you. I look forward to hearing about your progress!!

Luciana - Reply

I love your post Kathy. I did translated in my native language (romanian) so it’s sounds more familiar and I read it when I feel overwhelmed with the memories of the past. It works wanders to my mood.
When is your book comming out? I would love to buy it.

Much love, Luciana.

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