What to do when we feel stuck

How do we begin to make changes in our lives when all we can see are the obstacles in our way?

I learned a long time ago to step back and take a different look at my situation when I feel like I’m stuck.

Change is freaking hard. Even when we know what we want, we often can’t figure out how to get started on it.

I’ve been there many times… and it can be so frustrating and disheartening.

A lot of the time the things we want changed are the things that are out of our control… Like other people or our financial situation, for example…

I’ve come up with an action plan that works for ANY situation we find ourselves in, especially when we feel like we’re stuck.

No matter what is going on, no matter what’s standing in our way, here’s the thing… it’s got to start with us anyway. 

We feel stuck when we know that we have to DO something to make change happen, but we feel like we can’t.

We’ve got to start on “our side of the street.” …all the stuff we have full control over.

If you’re in a situation where you feel like your hands are tied and there is nothing you can do, taking this advice suddenly shows you what you CAN do, and it is super freaking empowering!

It gets us out of victim mode and puts us in the driver seat!

We go from someone in despair to someone filled with hope and encouragement for the future.

You ready?

I’m going to help you see that there are many things under your control despite the obstacles.

We tend to focus on the problems instead of realizing that there are basic steps we need to take in every situation.

Here are things to do right now…

Begin with how your day starts.

Create a simple morning and evening routine that includes taking care of yourself, and by that I mean simply, wash your face, put on moisturizer and get into pajamas that make you feel good.

In the morning, get yourself together first thing, and do this even if you don’t go off to work.

Get your day started right away expecting that somebody is going to call you and invite you to breakfast with your favorite celebrity. You’ll want to be ready to go!

Now look around at your side of the street. Do you have clothes that you haven’t worn in years and they’re clogging up your closet?

Is your end table overflowing with crap? Is your dresser covered in dust making you feel like your not important?

By taking these seemingly small steps along with adding a routine to your day, you will rapidly feel like a change is on its way.

I have found that when we give God something to work with, life begins to flow in ways we’ve not imagined possible, and our attitude changes… everything does!

You will feel like the sun came out, like someone opened the windows and let fresh air into the room!

I used to own a beautiful home that needed A LOT of work, but I didn’t have the finances to take care of it and fix what needed fixing.

I started to resent it like nobody’s business. I knew I needed a new bathroom and kitchen, and I also knew there was no way I could afford it.

But one day while in the shower it came to me… almost audibly: “Do the best you can with what you’ve got.”

I started a Pinterest board called “My funky house.” and began searching for inspiration.

It’s still up on Pinterest as a matter of fact. It helped me to plan, visualize and develop a new perspective that gave me hope and got me on the road to change… maybe not the change I wished for, but one that added joy and ultimately got me what I wanted… a home I could feel good about living in.

What around you could you do something about? Make a plan and begin there.

Now, I’m not going to leave you with an idea in concept form only. Here are DOABLE ideas.

Choose any room that matters most to you, but your bedroom can be a great place to start.

Get rid of clothes you don’t wear anymore (the act of giving will bring blessings to you too as a bonus). Declutter and clean surfaces, check what’s under the bed and clean it out. Change the sheets, then deep clean the room. Do this in steps, it doesn’t have to be done all in one day. Pace yourself, but keep moving.

These are things that will keep you busy and DOING something that is necessary anyway on any journey to change.

Here is a sample morning and evening routine. Don’t make this harder than it needs to be.


Up on time (pick a time and stick to it)
Drink water
Make Bed

Evening (determine a bedtime and begin this ritual 30 minutes before)

Wash Face
Brush Teeth
Put on PJs
Go to bed on time

There is a verse in The Bible that says, “Without vision my people perish.” 

Get yourself inspired, take your eyes off the obstacles, and focus on what is in your power to change.

Leave a comment and let me know if this has helped you, and what you will do to begin with. Then keep it up, and let me know how it’s going!


Leave a Reply 12 comments

Jean - Reply

This is so great. THANK YOU! Incidentally, you have inspired me SO MUCH. I’ve continued to declutter my office papers for at least 15 minutes per day, and it’s looking better and better and better. … My kitchen table is clear, too; I love being able to use it as a kitchen table again, not for office papers. 😀

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    Love it, Jean! Wonderful! It is incredible how much can be done in 15-minute blocks!

Diane - Reply

Wonderful piece, Kathy–thank you! I needed a little extra encouragement to finish a walk-in storage closet in our l living room, and this is doing the trick.

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    Wonderful Diane! Yahoo-You! Let me know how it goes!

Marie D Kathleen Musca - Reply

Thank you again Kathy.
I have been feeling stuck lately.
Just what I needed to get me back into decluttering mode.
Gonna start on my room today.
One step at a time
Much love and God Bless
Kathy M

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    Thanks for letting me know it helped you, Kathy! Make an appointment with yourself to get the decluttering done. Put it on your calendar and commit to a time, even 15 at a time makes a difference.

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    Thank you so much Marie!

linda - Reply

Thank u!!
Do u regret selling your home?
I know from your videos u moved from your apartment to live with a relative.
Do u still live with relative?
Your video on the closet in your brother’s house made a difference in my life – We do not have to be perfect!! thank u

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    I sort of regret selling it. But regret is pointless. If I could do it all over again I wouldn’t sell it. But the growth I’ve had because of it I would never have experienced so, who knows…

    I could t afford it any longer. The stress in trying to keep up the payments were overbearing. I void towel up the stress level I was living trying to keep it up.

    I don’t live with my sister anymore. It was a great experience. Loved it. Learned a lot.

    Thanks for letting me know my videos are helping xxoo

Suzanne - Reply

You are SO inspiring! I love reading your emails and watching your videos! They area huge help in keeping me in track!

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    Thank you Suzanne!

    Kathy Robers - Reply

    Thank you so much Suzanne! I appreciate you so much!

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