Throw it out Thursday – Tossing Expectations and Empowering Ourselves

by | Sep 2, 2021 | Blog | 6 comments

This blog and video was done in August 2012, it still holds so much relevance for today.

My daughters, Katie and Emily and I, we’re heading out to the mall, I was having a conversation with Katie that I thought was super relevant for Throw it out Thursday, so I got it done on the road.

Katie was telling me about something that she was doing…

Throwing out the expectations she had from other people because having these expectations from others was causing her some grief… I thought that would be a great Throw it Out Thursday.

It does link in to being disorganized because it ties into inactivity.

Katie said, when people don’t meet her expectations it puts her in a mental state where she becomes sad or even a little depressed ad then gets into a slump.
She has found that instead of doing the things she’s supposed to be doing she obsesses over what she thought SHOULD have happened, and find’s herself eating a bowl of ice cream in bed catching up on old episodes of The Office instead of doing the laundry that’s been piling up in the corner.

It becomes an excuse to not do things.

Katie said, “It’s a feeling that’s not even fair, because I shouldn’t have to feel that way, but I’m upset that they’re not meeting my needs. It sounds silly but [I found that] everybody does it.”

Katie tells us what she’s done about it.

She writes down each expectation that someone else is not fulfilling in her life, things that are bringing her down, any kind of emotion that is not a positive emotion.

Then she finds a specific verse in her bible where God fulfills that expectation. She takes that expectation from that person, forgives them for not fulfilling it for her, throws it away and replaces it with a promise that God has made to her from The Bible.

If you’re not a Christian, it still can work for you. Replace your expectation with a different thought, of yourself, of The Universe, of what you believe good can come to you.

Because words have power, thoughts have power. So many books have been written about that very thing… What you believe you receive.
– “Think and Grow Rich”
– “The Secret”
– “The Master Key”

In my book, “Finally Organized” I have an entire chapter about forgiveness. I’ll copy and paste it here:

“Forgiving doesn’t mean, what has been done was OK. Forgiveness means to let go of, I’m not going to hold onto this anymore.

Holding onto things that people have done to us, puts us in a position where our hands are tied.  Some of the things that were done people can’t even pay back. We can say, I refuse to hold onto this anymore.“

So for this Throw it out Thursday we are throwing out expectations we have of other people that are not being met and taking control of our lives, empowering ourselves to have those expectations from God and from ourselves even.

We are also allowing ourselves to stop the inactivity that happens because we’re in a slump ❤️


  1. Mary

    Thanks to Kathy and daughter for this wonderful insight. Everything that is too much is clutter!

    • Kathy Roberts

      Thank you Mary for taking the time to comment! I’ll pass what you said on to my daughter.

  2. Jean

    I love this. Thank you!

    • Kathy Roberts

      Thanks so much for leaving a comment Jean and letting me know 🙂

  3. Monica

    This is a great video about expectations… I think you should do a new video with similar context… With it being the new year, winter time, and Covid issues… All that means alot of being in your home, relying on others at times, and definitely more depending on what your new years resolution, or goals for this year might be.
    I definitely feel I was meant to watch this now, with all that I, myself have been working to achieve with my home, family and inner self.

    My dad once told when I was having health issues and unexpected high blood pressure do to alot of added stress from moving…
    My blood pressure went way up and I almost fainted going down the stairs.
    He told me to take my butt back to th other house and let everyone else move things.
    My response… They’re packing stuff up wrong and putting it in the wrong places.
    My dad pretty much told me
    Who cares, cuz we can fix that later on, but we can’t fix our health later on if we damagw it worse
    Then his words.
    “No one is going to take better care of YOU, than You”

    We know what we really should and shouldn’t be doing, especially when it comes to our own mind and body.. however we ARE human and flawed. Sometimes…lol
    So I just really enjoyed this email and video…. Let the inner work on me get a little more work done 🙂

    • Kathy Roberts

      Love your dad! I bet you appreciated him saying that to you and giving you permission to take care of you. Since I’m just seeing this I will definitely put a not for myself to do another video with this topic. Thanks Monica.


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